Trust is absolutely crucial when working with horses. You need to trust your horse, and your horse needs to trust you.
Your horse needs to know that you will keep them safe and only ask them to do things that they are capable of. You need to trust that your horse can act like a partner and be responsible.
If your horse doesnt trust you then you will end up with refusals, skittish behaviour, and unpleasant experiences. If you dont trust your horse then your horse wont learn to be responsible, he wont like you because you are too controlling and predator like, and you wont develop a relationship where your horse wants to work for you.
You can only get the best out of your horse when you can both trust each other.
Here are some easy ways you can begin to build trust:
Protect Your Space
The most important step in building trust with your horse is to protect your personal space. I often see humans wanting to snuggle up with their horses, except the horse ends up rubbing too hard and causing the human to step backward or when its time for the snuggle session to stop the human backs away instead of the horse.
A horse is supposed to see you as a strong and great leader that can keep both yourself and the horse safe but if you cant even protect your own space, then how on earth are you going to protect your horse from the scary wolf that hides in the arena, or the alligator that is waiting to jump out from behind the rock on a trail?
People often dont fully understand the massive impact that protecting your personal space can have. In general, you need to be more aware of your feet .. DONT move your feet! If you are done with your snuggle session, you back the horse away but you DONT move your feet.
If the horse is standing with you while you are waiting for something, grooming, etc and he gets too close for comfort, you move your horse but you DONT move your feet.
The second part to this is making sure that you dont move your feet when you go to back the horse up either. Instead reach out politely push them, or flap your arms (rhythmic air pressure), etc to get your horse to back up out of your space but you DONT move your feet.
You only move your feet when you decide its time to move on or to ask for something different . or if the situation would be dangerous if you dont get out of the way.
If you stand facing your horse, your body language suggests you are standing your ground and the horse should not come into your space. Only if you relax your posture and invite the horse in, should the horse come to greet you.
Remember, Dont move your feet!
Protect Your Horse
While protecting yourself and your space, you need to protect your horse. This means protecting your horse from any human, animal, or objects that could hurt him.
This responsibility starts as soon as you enter the paddock you need to make sure that no other horse touches your horse. Even if the other horse is trying to touch your horse gently, dont allow it because it could turn into a bad situation.
Think: how can your horse trust you to protect him if you cant even prevent his own herd mates from touching him?
You are the leader of your horse, and your horse needs to see you as the leader. Sometimes I hear stories of horses protecting their humans from other horses or scary objects although it is nice the horse cares for you, it shows that the horse thinks that you need protecting, when instead if you are the leader you protect your horse. This matters so that your horse trusts you to do whatever you ask.
If you let your horse take on the leadership role by letting your horse be the one to get the other horses away or shield you from a scary object, then you are sending a potentially dangerous message to your horse you are telling your horse that you are the follower and not the leader which means the horse makes the decisions not you.
This can be dangerous because then it becomes confusing who makes decisions so when you are riding or playing the horse might have his own ideas about what to do and how to do it and this can be dangerous . especially if you are cantering along and the horse decides to quickly change direction, refuse to jump, or to take off and gallop all because the horse thinks he can make his own decisions and doesnt know to follow your lead.
This doesnt mean your horse can never offer ideas, or suggestions, but in general you are the one in charge of the herd to keep your horse(s) safe.
Provide a Focus
As a protective and great leader, it is also your job to provide a focus to your partnership. Your focus can be as simple as lets graze, or it could be more complex things like lets perform flying lead changes.
No matter what you choose for your focus, you need to know what you are doing, and your horse needs to know what is expected.
For example, if you are standing in the barn grooming you can provide the focus for the horse is to stand still. If the horse starts to move around then you continue to provide the same focus by correcting your horse back into the same spot for grooming and then trust your horse again to stand still (dont stay tight on the lead rope).
Another example, if you are riding and you want the horse to follow a circle pattern. You can start riding the circle pattern and try to ride using your body, if your horse isnt following the circle pattern then correct with the rein until the horse is back on the circle and then allow the horse to follow the circle pattern without micromanaging with the reins.
You provide the focus, trust your horse to follow your focus, and you correct your horse politely if you need to. You are patiently persistent at correcting your horse until they understand and follow your focus.
Remember to keep your focus reasonable if your horse doesnt usually come in to be handled it might be unfair to ask the horse to stand for an hour while you pull their mane. Instead ask for 10 minutes of standing, then have a break, and then ask for 15 minutes and then have a break, etc. Or if your horse is only just learning flying lead changes then just ask for one lead change and then a walking reward break.
Remember to be open to your horses ideas they might be trying to follow your focus but offer something different. For example you might be asked them to go sideways over a log but they might jump it. In these situations its usually best to smile, thank the horse for trying but then ask them to try again making sure your communication is clear. Also remember to do things your horse enjoys too, which could be walking on a loose rein, just standing still, jumping, or investigating objects.
Set yourself up for success by having a focus that is fair and achievable.
Being able to provide a focus to your horse, and being able to stick with a focus will help build trust in your horse. This is because your horse will believe you when you try to tell your horse that something isnt scary because you dont change your mind, the horse knows that in 5 minutes you will still be saying the object isnt scary.
If you allow your horse to change your focus, your horse learns that you change your mind and you arent really sure about what to do, what not to do, etc, so when you approach something scary and try to tell the horse it isnt scary, the horse may not believe you.
Touch it Game
Some horses are naturally braver than other, and some horses tend to be fairly skittish and flighty. Horses can become more confident when they are exposed to many different things when they associate positive experiences with the different objects/ environments.
Getting your horse to touch different objects is one way to build confidence. Provided the horse doesnt get hurt or intimidated during the experience.
How to play:
- Approach an object.
- As soon as your horse shows the slightest sign of worry or anxiety you stop and wait.
- You wait at the exact spot that your horse first started to get anxious, still facing the object.
- You wait until your horse asks a question or shows signs of being more comfortable.
- Once your horse has asked a question or is more comfortable, you ask them to try going forward again.
- Repeat until eventually they reach out and touch the object. Then reward your horse.
It is important that while you are waiting, that you keep your horse facing the scary object. This way the horse doesnt learn to run or escape from what is scary. You simply wait in the exact spot that you first noticed the anxiety.
For example, if you start to approach a scary tarp and your horses head goes high and alert. You would stop in your tracks with the horse (or your horse may have stopped all by himself) and wait for the horse to lower his head more relaxed and/or flick an ear toward you to ask a question. You answer that question by politely asking the horse to move forward again.
Another example would be if you are touching your horse with something new, like clippers, and you get to a spot where your horse starts to be uncomfortable,for example his tummy. You would hold the clippers on the exact spot near his tummy/on his tummy where you first saw signs of anxiety (the horse starts to swish his tail, raise his head, prance about, etc). When the horse is relaxed (stopped swishing his tail, lowered his head, stands still, etc) you offer a reward and take the clippers away. Then you start over by clipping an area the horse is comfortable and slowly approach the tummy area again.
By following this approach you teach your horse that there is no need for explosive behaviour like bolting, biting, striking out, or kicking, because you recognize cues from the horse like tail swishing, prancing, or head raising. You also teach your horse that if the horse stands still/relaxes that the horse will be rewarded, not taken advantage of.
Think about it. If your horse is really anxious about mounting, tossing the saddle pad on, clipping, etc the horse shows you this by prancing a little, or raising his head in a worried manner but then the horse decides to offer to stand still . So then if you react by quickly getting on, tossing the saddle pad on, or sneaking in a quick clip then you punish your horse for standing still you do exactly what the horse was anxious about.
This means you are a partner, not a dictator to be feared.
Test your relationship and explore new objects: introduce tarps, balls, clippers, massagers, plastic bags, tossing lead ropes over the horse, go over poles, cross bridges, stand in water, stand on a pedestal, use stuffed toys, hula hoops, and whatever you can think of. Keep it safe, keep it interesting.
You can also change up the scenery in your arena/play area by posting signs, hanging drapes/curtains in different areas, moving different things around like barrels, jumps, etc. Your horse can learn to be comfortable in a changing environment so try not to always store your jumps in the same corner, or always park the gator in the same spot, or always have the mounting block in the same corner, etc.
Change is good, change builds confidence just know how to keep it positive.
Once you have introduced your horse to a variety of things, it is important to try and give the objects a purpose or make them part of your play.
This is where you get to be creative and think of ways you can incorporate your ground and riding cues into challenging games that can test your communication, build confidence, and ultimately build a better partnership.
- Instead of just walking over a pole, try having your horse halt halfway over
- Try getting your horse to put all four feet on the pedestal
- Have your horse walk sideways over a pole
- Have your horse do a haunch/forehand turn while keeping their hind/front feet in a hula hoop
- Send your horse over various jumps from the ground (either free jumping or online)
- Get your horse to put one foot on a tire
- Back your horse through a set of pylons or flower boxes
- Do a figure 8 pattern around barrels, flowers, or buckets (use different objects as markers)
- Have your horse walk in-between to benches, poles, or jumps see how narrow a space your horse will walk through (great for trailer loading practice)
- Walk over a tarp or shower curtain
- Trailer load can you load your horse halfway into a trailer? What about all the way? What about backwards?
Use these 5 tips when spending time with your horse and you will be well on your way to building a confident partner that will trust your through anything!